Was listening to Tony Robbins interviewing Leo Buscaglia. Then in an
inspired moment, I googled Leo. It turns out the interview is old. Leo
died in 1998. But he did leave a remarkable work about love. Here's a
sample marvelous sample on Love and Death.
Learn the Joy of the Moment
by Leo Buscaglia, Ph.D.
Freud said a lots of really nice things and one thing that he said was
so many of our problems and our inability to live stems from the
belief that we will never die.
We think we have forever. If you thing about it in the back of your
mind, you always think it's the other person who dies, not you. Well I
have news for you, We are all going to die! The is the most democratic
thing that has ever happened. No matter who you are, how wealthy you
are, how illustrious you are, how many degrees you have, how fouled up
you've made your life, how beautiful you've made your life, you're
going to die.
But why fear it? You only fear death when you're not living. If you're
involved in the process of life, you won't wail and scream. If you've
treated people in your life beautifully while they were alive, you
will not throw yourself over thief caskets screaming, "Don't go, Don't
Go!" For goodness sakes! We don't even let people die in dignity. We
let them die guilty by screaming, "Oh, please don't die."
What a weird concept we have of death. We don't want to take children
to funerals. Some of you had it explained that everything dies as
flowers die in winter and then grow again. Death is a continuous
beautiful process of life. Then when you've seen it, you don't fear
it, Death is a good friend, an awfully good friend, because it tells
us we don't have forever and that to live is now; therefore, you see
how precious every minute is. We read it and say, "oh yes, that's so
true." But do we live that way? How wonderful it is to be with the
moment when you see a flower. When somebody is talking to you, for
goodness sake, listen and don't look over a shoulder at wheat else is
going on. Cocktail time. There's no greater insult. If you don't want
to be with me, don't be with me! That's all right, I can adjust to
that. But if you are going to be with me, will you be with me? You
say, I am going to look at the ocean." Do you look at the ocean? "Oh,
isn't that a beautiful sunset." Do you mean it, do you see it, do you
recognize it will never come again?
Death teaches us--if we want to hear--that the time is now. The time
is now to pick up a telephone and call the person that you love. Death
teaches us the joy of the moment. It teaches us we don't have forever.
If teaches us that nothing is permanent, It teaches us to let go,
there's nothing you can hang on to. And it tells us to give up on
expectations and let tomorrow tell its own story, because nobody knows
if they'll get home tonight. To me that's a tremendous challenge.
Death says, "Live now."
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